I can’t quite make sense of my motivations for how I want to write today’s Gratitude List. I’m thinking too hard about thinking about it. You see, I have been complaining all day. Really complaining about how many things have been going wrong. I keep it sort of light, too, whining delivered on a platter of intended humor: “I think all the appliances and motorized things on this farm have had a conference and decided to break down at the same time.”
Pretty lame, actually, but that’s the place where you’re supposed to groan with empathy, and pity me my breakdowns: Poor woman can’t keep her food cold or drive her car, and her lawn’s turning to jungle. But I don’t think I am looking for pity, really. Well, perhaps a little commiseration. That’s such a great word, such a great idea. Let’s be a little miserable together at the unfairness of the world, and it will all seem a little easier to bear.
I have been making an internal list today (not necessarily intentionally) of all the things that have gone wrong. If I twist that list into my gratitude list in some artful way, I will have had my chance at a rant. But is that really gratitude?
I think it is. Yes, because this business of writing a gratitude list is not only about finding the wonderful things that do happen; it’s also about putting the brokenness into perspective, about spinning the story into something positive. Not for spin’s sake, but for gratitude’s sake. For the sake of centeredness and peace of mind.
In Pronoia, Rob Breszny talks about how when something goes wrong, we focus on that one or two or five things that aren’t working instead of the hundreds of things that are working. It’s about where you place your focus. The clocks still work. Gravity continues to hold me to Earth. The plants grow. The children laugh. The stovetop cooks my morning egg to perfection.
Today I am a Spin Doctor. Not in search of pity, except as it comes with a little good mojo for all my motorized things to work.
Gratitude List:
1. My father’s car, and his gracious sharing of it while Roxanne Buick is having herself repaired to pass inspection.
2. A new (to us) fridge being delivered this week, and the old one taken away with no extra effort from us. And working substitutes in the meantime. We’re so fortunate that we have the farm store fridge to tide us over until the new one comes.
3. The string trimmer works again. We can at least keep the edges tidy. And sometimes keep your edges tidy is just the thing.
4. Spinning.
5. Perspective.
May we walk in Beauty.